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Title: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: MyJonJon on February 08, 2012, 11:09:19 PM
  /xo.......please share!!??

Thx
J
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: lucifer on February 09, 2012, 12:12:12 AM
Heartily endorsed and encouraged.

Trying to be all things to all women without their input but their judgment  - considering the months and months of indecision before emailing (so I read recently) can make cul de sacs seem like highways.

L.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Quinn on February 09, 2012, 11:35:14 AM
Of course, this is going to be somewhat different for each woman, but I'll jump in with mine.

1) Attractiveness. Looks do, of course, play a role in this, but it also includes the personality traits that come out through correspondence and on his website. A very good-looking man can quickly turn ugly in my opinion if certain traits, especially arrogance, show up.

2) Sensitivity.

3) Ability to carry on an intelligent conversation.

Quinn

Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Kat O'9Tales on February 10, 2012, 06:26:38 PM
I gave this question a lot of thought. I hope it helps. (Sorry, I couldn't quite limit myself to three. I can count, really!)
I made a few assumptions, such as physically attractive, and with the caveat that no one is free of flaws and quirks. I, personally seek out others  who are, indeed, quirky,  /clap2 as they are generally fun to be around.

Integrity
Coming from the Latin word integritas, meaning "whole" or "intact". It encompasses all the traits that make a truly "good" person, such as honesty, discretion, straight and morally upright, (and who isn't looking for straight and upright in a companion).

Intelligence with common  sense
My personal belief is that common sense, social intelligence  and "street smarts" are pretty much the same. Social skills, or relating to others, are abilities required to use common sense, which dictates what or what  not to do or say in every day settings

Humor
I adore laughter. I love it when others laugh with me, point  out the ridiculous, and are willing to laugh at themselves. Laughter can be an intriguing  aphrodisiac.

Versatile
  I liked the definitions I found in The Free Online Dictionary, which Synonyms from Answers.com concur:
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Tasha on February 14, 2012, 04:13:42 AM
(1)  A man who is articulate will do it for me every time.  And I would only consider a companion who is willing to spend some time exchanging emails with me, first.  (Perhaps that is unfair of me, but I am interested spending time with a man Ė not a piece of meat.)

(2)  A guy who is a gentleman Ė which to my mind does not preclude teasing or even explicit conversation.  With the right guy, I enjoy certain types of ďearthyĒ conversation, but only if he has demonstrated that he can and will treat me with respect.  (I was told today that women frequently donít tell a male companion anything about their sexual likes and dislikes.  Personally Iíd rather be upfront and find out if he and I could potentially be compatible.)  However, if a companion used offensive language or made really sexually explicit comments to me the first couple of times we chatted [via email or PM] heíd never hear from me again.  I guess the keyword is subtlety; if he canít seduce me with words, he wonít be able to in person, no matter what he looks like

(3)  Genuine caring and / or a great sense of humour.  If he can offer me TLC and / or make me laugh, Iíll keep coming back as often as circumstances allow.  Itís incredibly endearing to me to share a ďprivate jokeĒ or phrase with a gentleman.  I know ultimately itís a business transaction, but itís nice to feel some human connection with a companion.  (I hope that makes sense because I canít explain it better without giving a real-life example Ė and Iím not prepared to do that.) 
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Madison on February 14, 2012, 09:03:20 AM
I gave this question a lot of thought. I hope it helps. (Sorry, I couldn't quite limit myself to three. I can count, really!)
I made a few assumptions, such as physically attractive, and with the caveat that no one is free of flaws and quirks. I, personally seek out others  who are, indeed, quirky,  /clap2 as they are generally fun to be around.

Integrity
Coming from the Latin word integritas, meaning "whole" or "intact". It encompasses all the traits that make a truly "good" person, such as honesty, discretion, straight and morally upright, (and who isn't looking for straight and upright in a companion).

Intelligence with common  sense
My personal belief is that common sense, social intelligence  and "street smarts" are pretty much the same. Social skills, or relating to others, are abilities required to use common sense, which dictates what or what  not to do or say in every day settings

Humor
I adore laughter. I love it when others laugh with me, point  out the ridiculous, and are willing to laugh at themselves. Laughter can be an intriguing  aphrodisiac.

Versatile
  I liked the definitions I found in The Free Online Dictionary, which Synonyms from Answers.com concur:
  • Capable of doing many things competently (yeah, baby!)
  • Having varied uses or serving many functions ('nuff  said)



Ditto  :)

I couldn't have said it any better myself. You took the words right out of my mouth.
Madison
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Kat O'9Tales on February 14, 2012, 11:25:19 AM

Ditto  :)

I couldn't have said it any better myself. You took the words right out of my mouth.
Madison
Sorry, shall I put them back? Do you think the guys will want to watch?  :P
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: MyJonJon on February 17, 2012, 09:01:16 PM

   Hello ladies and everyone else   :)

        Happy late valentines to all of you wonderful women! I am celebrating Mardi Gras from the balcony of my home in New Orleans, and wishing this discussion was taking place in person over cocktails and the sound of marching bands. /drink

      I will start off by saying WOW, I appreciate all the responses to this topic. The depth, time, and effort you ladies have put into the insight of an intriguing mind a woman possesses would be valuable to any man looking to fulfill his date.

Thanks
Jonathan
www.mynino.net
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Kat O'9Tales on December 08, 2013, 04:17:15 PM
I'm curious to how our present members will respond to this question.  /cheerleader
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: NoGNoG on December 08, 2013, 10:22:29 PM
Strength of Character

Joie de vivre with laughter

Engage me with words or actions
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Rhett DAngelo on December 15, 2013, 01:30:24 PM
I guess the keyword is subtlety; if he canít seduce me with words, he wonít be able to in person, no matter what he looks like

I love that you said this, Tasha! I did a lot of research before I even thought about building a website and It's kind of sad how so many meat-heads have no tools in the toolbox for subtlety.

I will add one more trait that I believe women seek in men in general. I think women love a man who can be completely genuine. And they can spot someone who isn't a mile off.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: whiteroses on January 28, 2014, 04:34:07 PM
Attention to Entire Experience (not just sex)

I have not yet had the pleasure of enjoying a companion, though I have been interested for some time.  I have been very turned off by companions that essentially just list their sexual do's and don'ts, or a list of physical traits.  It makes me feel like I am at a meat market.  I want to spend time with a person, a whole person, and that means I require some clothed time.  I want a companion who can put thought into the entire evening.

Genuine Communication

I want to feel like I know a man well enough before meeting.  Any encounter is made better when there is a buildup of flirtation and discussion.  I value open communication, and would require it in a companion.  The communication ties into the attention to entire experience. 

A Dominant Personality

I spent some time deciding on my wording, and I think I will leave it at that.  If my first two criteria are met, the presence of this can quickly be known.  :)



Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Dave on January 29, 2014, 01:49:47 PM
A Dominant Personality

I spent some time deciding on my wording, and I think I will leave it at that.  If my first two criteria are met, the presence of this can quickly be known.  :)


Despite your discretion about this concept, whiteroses, I'd be curious to hear you develop about what a "dominant personality" is. I still have trouble knowing if I fit the description.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: whiteroses on January 29, 2014, 03:05:36 PM
A Dominant Personality

I spent some time deciding on my wording, and I think I will leave it at that.  If my first two criteria are met, the presence of this can quickly be known.  :)




Despite your discretion about this concept, whiteroses, I'd be curious to hear you develop about what a "dominant personality" is. I still have trouble knowing if I fit the description.

I would say this one is  specific to me, but I like having a gentleman in charge every once in a while. From the beginning of, say, dinner, and wherever dinner might lead.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: alexslogan on January 29, 2014, 08:54:27 PM
@whiterose: Communication, etc

The ability to take time to communicate leisurely before a date takes an investment in time, which you rightfully points out builds anticipation along with a comfort level. For anyone looking for a longer date - not just a quick encounter - I can't imagine not having a fair amount of communication before hand.

Alex
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: whiteroses on January 29, 2014, 09:21:11 PM
Yes, Alex, exactly. I think I lean towards desiring longer dates.  I would want to be at a point of desiring my date so much that nervousness floats away.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: AnthonyByNight on March 12, 2015, 01:12:45 AM
It's amazing how far down the list physical attractive qualities come. I look at some male escort profiles over and cringe. Do they really need that torso shot? Or the bicep curl at the gym? Eugh.

Subconsciously, the idea of a male escort is that he is virile, fit and healthy, so there is some degree that he needs to be those things. However, women want far more. As long as he doesn't meet her idea of 'ugly' or 'unattractive' then she will look to his personable and human qualities. I've gone down that route with my own website. You have to look a fair way through the writing before you find the photos.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Maxime Durocher on March 12, 2015, 07:57:45 AM
My take on this is that even though they list it way down, the ladies looking for a companion will filter their initial choice by appearance, but will then move quickly to personality, just like other women. If I continue my generalization on gender, which I don't really like to do, men will simply attach more important to attractiveness, but most will also move on to personality.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Quinn on March 12, 2015, 10:07:18 AM
I think Max is right. When I looked at we sights in the beginning, I first made sure the guy wasn't my idea of ugly, which may be quite different from other women's ideas. But looks alone weren't going to lure me in. Personality was.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Pete on March 12, 2015, 10:54:04 AM
My opinion is that it depends on the lady's need and expectation. If she only needs a short time date even without pre-date communication, she will most probably go with agency escorts, where the looks of the escort is very important. That's the key reason that agencies only hire gents with extraordinary looks and body. On the other hand, if a lady needs substantial pre- date engagement,  personality factors weigh in to go hand in hand with physical appearance. 
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Kat O'9Tales on March 12, 2015, 11:24:56 AM
Insightful, Pete.
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Iris.Blooms on March 12, 2015, 10:28:54 PM
Things I look for in any companion with whom I spend time are:

Intelligence. This includes but is not limited to a curiosity about the world, rather than someone who already knows how everything is and doesn't have room for adventure and discovery.

Humor. A good laugh is one of the most long-term endearing traits.

Attractiveness. This isn't the usual run of the mill attractiveness. Sometimes I find that people who are very good looking can become ugly the more their personality shows. Being attractive on the inside is JUST AS, if not more important than being attractive on the outside. Compassion and being genuine go a long way towards attractiveness.

 /clap2
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: GreggAllen on March 13, 2015, 09:37:58 PM
Things I look for in any companion with whom I spend time are:

This sounds like some excellent thoughts! I like it!

Intelligence. This includes but is not limited to a curiosity about the world, rather than someone who already knows how everything is and doesn't have room for adventure and discovery.

Humor. A good laugh is one of the most long-term endearing traits.

Attractiveness. This isn't the usual run of the mill attractiveness. Sometimes I find that people who are very good looking can become ugly the more their personality shows. Being attractive on the inside is JUST AS, if not more important than being attractive on the outside. Compassion and being genuine go a long way towards attractiveness.

 /clap2
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Rene on July 22, 2015, 09:15:54 AM
Discretion, safety and anonymity (University of Amsterdam).
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Maxime Durocher on July 22, 2015, 05:22:06 PM
Discretion, safety and anonymity (University of Amsterdam).

Excellent choices.  :)
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Debra on July 24, 2015, 09:28:17 AM
For me, there are 2 layers to this: the appearance and details of a companion's marketing (website or ad) and the companion himself (which includes physical stats as well as how he portrays himself online) and each have equal importance for me.

Let's start with the gentleman's online presence: I look for someone with at least a short bio of themselves, a menu with varied options for social and private engagements, and one without any boasting (i.e. referring to himself as the BEST or PREMIER companion for that locale) or glaring typos, grammatical errors, etc. 

On to the man himself: I do have an age preference so I first look to see if he falls within that range....
then onto the photos, and here I'm looking for some evidence of his personality (suggestive photos with women are a turn-off for me, so I'd rather not see them in the main photo gallery) and that he at least looks healthy....  if I'm still intrigued at that point, how he describes what he offers is really the most important thing.  Evidence of an adaptable nature, patience, and the true desire to give a woman the exact experience she seeks are key.  That last being the most important, of course.  ;-)

So that's way more than just 3, but I (like many women) tend to overthink...... well.... EVERYTHING.   :p


Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Maxime Durocher on July 24, 2015, 10:39:49 AM
It might not be limited to 3, but it has the benefit of being very clear. Good work!  :)
Title: Re: What are the top 3 characteristics ladies look for before choosing a companion?
Post by: Slovestravel on August 01, 2015, 05:09:42 AM
I look for the 'Three P's'

Physical Conventionally handsome, skinny / slim / athletic (but super cut - no body fat), black hair and if in a country where I can purchase sex,  well hung and uncut.

Performance Not all companions are sexually talented. My choice must be exceptionally so.

Personality We need to connect in general, so his personality must mesh with mine. Easy-going,  attentive, politically and socially active and a resilient spirit.