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General Discussion / Celibacy, couples, children and society views
« on: February 21, 2016, 07:17:21 AM »
Celibacy, being single, in 2016: what is it like? What do people think about single females, or males (different matter I know!)? Is there still as much judgment as it was?

I've been single all my life, out of my own decision. I'm the archetype of the solitary person, most of my hobbies are best practiced alone, and as I work with the public all day long I really need a lot of time by myself just to regroup and ground myself. Having children would be my very worst nightmare as the lifestyle that comes with them would literally kill me.

Of course it's been awfully difficult to find balance between wanting to be solo and having a satisfying sexual life. Flirted with a few guys and a gal in real life or on the internet, fell madly in love twice, but when things got serious, I was out of there in the blink of an eye. And boy do things get serious fast: in my experience people want children, and they want to live with their lover under the same roof, they want to show the whole world who they are with. I simply can't understand those needs, they clash with who I am. Companionship appears to be an interesting way to bring balance back into the life of a single woman, but then it pushes me further away from "normalcy" again.

I do not like judgment, I'm not the judgemental type; people have their own life to live and it's hard enough as it is to add pressure from the outside on them. However, I know for a fact that it's hard for most people to understand a lifestyle such as mine, maybe even harder for them than for me to understand the need for children and being in a relationship. Most of my female acquaintances do not invite me in the presence of their male partner, even if they do so between themselves. Are they afraid I might steal them? Many think I'm gay. Most just don't get it when I say I don't want to be in a relationship.

But where those desires come from? Where does the need for a "better half" and for children come from? Is it ingrained in people at the genetic level, so that they just want it to happen never knowing why? Is it something that people think about before committing? Are single people a threat, an anomaly?

What do you think?

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Introductions / Hello from Canada
« on: February 16, 2016, 07:30:57 AM »
Hello everyone,

I'm a new member here but an old lurker, having discovered CdM a few months back. Thanks for accepting me here, I can't wait to get more involved in this very interesting universe...!  /clap

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