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This maybe a challenging question for some:
What do you offer your clients that they can't get from another male companion?

I keep my ear to the ground so I know what's going on in my local area with regard to straight male escorts. One previous client of mine told me about a booking she had with an Australian gentleman and my agents share information about the other guys on their books.

Variety helps women choose the right gentleman for them, rather than a standard off the shelf model. And knowing what others are doing helps us develop and be our greatest selves.

I know what I offer that is different to the others around me. I research; I learn. I want to know more than any other local escort about sex, intimacy and relationships. If a client comes to me with a particular desire or a challenging concern that I'm unfamiliar with, I research it so I that I can deliver the best experience possible.

 So, guys, what do you offer to your clients that they can't get from another male companion?

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General Discussion / Re: Would You Rather Be Needed or Desired?
« on: July 16, 2015, 04:52:42 AM »
Would you rather have a dog or a cat?

Dogs need you. They rely on you, devote themselves to you and are unwavering in their love for you. You can do what you want to a dog and it will be loyal to you forever because you are master and you will look after it. It needs you; it is desperate to be with you.

Cats desire you. They make the choice when and how they spend their time with you. You may feed it regularly and not let it outside, but it is a confident animal. If knows it can find food and shelter if it wants. But you treat it well, so it chooses to come to you. It desires your attention, but it is still totally independent.

I'm a cat person. I want a woman to choose to be with me. I like a woman who knows she can have any man in the room, and chooses me. I don't want for being needed. I like a woman who knows her mind, likes her life and chooses to share some of it with me. 

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General Discussion / Re: Changing, it's not just for seasons
« on: April 10, 2015, 11:10:11 PM »
I'm with Spielberg on this one.

I believe we are lots of Self's across our lives, like lots of short stories, instead of one SELF like a novel that has a beginning and end.
I'm not into the 'go and find yourself,' mentality. By going and doing something, we interact with new people and places and become a slightly different version of us. Knowing that allows a greater degree of flux and fluidity. I can do something different that I feel like doing and have no concern that it isn't going against 'who I am.' It's always who I am because it's me that wants to do it, for whatever reason.

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Art and Entertainment / Re: Currently Reading...
« on: March 23, 2015, 08:40:01 PM »
I've heard that Girl on the Train book is excellent. Going to steal it off a friend when she's done with it.

Currently reading:

Conditions of Love, by John Armstrong.

Too many fantastic passages to mention, but there is this that applies to what I/we do, if you're ever discussing the difference between sex and intimacy, or sex with a partner vs an escort:

'There are two ways in which people have imagined that we can find satisfaction in sex and in love at the same time. One is the traditional Christian view that love is the proper basis of sex... it is the expression of complete closeness between two people.
The second vision separates sex and love. Sex is regarded as no different from other physical pleasures: the enjoyment of food or sport, for example. Just as the argument goes that you should never have to play tennis with your lover, it is absurd to think that you should only ever have sex with the person you love.
The troubling fact is that both positions are correct.'

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General Discussion / Re: Escorting Dirty Tricks. Not Cool.
« on: March 22, 2015, 02:12:16 AM »
There's about seven guys on the books at the moment, but there's only two (ahem, one is me) that get regular bookings. The rest are one every few weeks or even one every few months. There is more going on that I've heard but don't want to post it. I'm not in the business of subterfuge. Integrity wins over time.

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General Discussion / Re: What do you like best about Spring?
« on: March 21, 2015, 02:33:18 PM »
It may be March, but it's Autumn here in Australia. Spring and Autumn are perfect temperatures here. Summer is hot, great for tans and the beach. Winter is mild, so great for tans and the beach ;-)

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General Discussion / Re: The Beatles on Love
« on: March 21, 2015, 02:30:31 PM »
Another way to look at that Beatles song - All you need is love - is to think that you've got everything else, the only thing that's missing is love.

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General Discussion / Escorting Dirty Tricks. Not Cool.
« on: March 19, 2015, 05:47:05 PM »
This year a client confided in me that another escort from our agency was badmouthing all us guys. Apparently he 'really enjoyed connecting with his clients,' whereas 'all the other guys are just in it for the money.'
Not cool. Funnily enough, she only confided in me because she felt that I had truly connected with her and he hadn't. He was lacking intelligence, unable to connect and more interested in himself.

I came out smelling of roses. She only decided to book me because my profile sounded real. When I actually turned out to be exactly what I said I was, she confided.

It's okay to compete, guys, but not through dirty tricks. This is not a fucking presidential race. We compete through our own USPs, our branding/marketing and through the quality of service we deliver.

When businesses badmouth their competitors, they are the ones that look cheap and stupid.

I decided to let it slide. If my agent hears me complaining, I just sound like I'm competing like he was. But also, I definitely came out with the better hand, so there was no need.

She didn't tell me who it was that she saw, but having met the other guys at the agency I can think of three possible candidates and two I'll rule out for not being her type. The third I'm fairly sure is a dickhead giving the agency a bad rep. I'll stick with doing what I'm doing with integrity thank you.

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It's amazing how far down the list physical attractive qualities come. I look at some male escort profiles over and cringe. Do they really need that torso shot? Or the bicep curl at the gym? Eugh.

Subconsciously, the idea of a male escort is that he is virile, fit and healthy, so there is some degree that he needs to be those things. However, women want far more. As long as he doesn't meet her idea of 'ugly' or 'unattractive' then she will look to his personable and human qualities. I've gone down that route with my own website. You have to look a fair way through the writing before you find the photos.

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I'm so glad I live in the state of Victoria, Australia.

My licensed SW number is on my site. There's no bull shit about me being a 'companion' and 'anything that happens beyond that is between two people.' As long as I follow safe practise and don't take incalls to my own home, then I'm licensed to do sex work. Other states in this fine country are more liberal than that: you can do incalls to home or hotels and don't even need to be licensed. Do we have crime associated with sex work/trafficking? Sure, but I'll bet it's far less than other more 'governed' systems. Let's hope things stay the same here.

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Newbies / Re: Holding hands in your hometown
« on: March 09, 2015, 03:30:32 AM »
In my opinion, a gent needs to do a tremendous amount of soul searching before embarking on a companion career. If a gent doesn't have a handle on his limits and boundaries, be able to articulate them in a way that a lady knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's him, and not her, then he shouldn't be in the business. I might sound harsh --  I hope I sound harsh. There is too much at stake, the gent's reputation, the ladies self esteem, and the future of companionship.

Brilliant response, Kat. If I've ever walked with a client to a restaurant, to a bar, to a hotel I've left that decision with her, but made her feel comfortable by suggesting that touch in public is okay, by touching her arm when greeting and kissing her and touching her elbow a few times when responding to something she says. You need to show her you're comfortable with her but more importantly comfortable in yourself.

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And thank you for the welcomes. I'm going to start fishing around the forum to learn more about the people who do this. We had the male escort Christmas party in early December where I met the other 6 guys that work for the agency. It's nice to meet others that do this and a pleasant surprise to see so many ladies engaging on here. I wasn't expecting that. 
Chat soon,
Anthony :-)

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Welcome!  Every time I read about Australia and male escorts, I think to myself, I need to plan a vacation....

I find it very amusing that Aussie women don't want men with Aussie accents, since most American women that I know find the Aussie accent sexy as hell.  I chair a committee with an Aussie man on it, and, even though he's actually kind of an idiot, I just love to hear him talk.  I find myself asking him questions just to listen.  :)

Carin

PS I checked out your blog, and it's quite interesting.  Thanks for writing it!

Thanks. Maybe it's the foreigner thing. Back in the UK my accent went pretty unnoticed. It was neither offensive nor attractive. Here, it goes down well.

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Introductions / A newbie to this site. Experiences from down under.
« on: March 06, 2015, 10:34:00 PM »
Hi there ladies and gents,

It's nice to find a community of sorts out there for male escorts, and one that is frequented by female clients as well.
It doesn't seem to be a big community, given the number of posts at the top of the page that date back several years. I wonder why that is. I know I discovered the site last year but just took an outside interest for a while. Maybe many male escorts think they work alone and no one understands them, not even other escorts.

I have been a male escort for a nearly three years now. I have been working for an agency in Australia - Aphrodisiac Male Escorts - since they started operating. I have testimonials and an article in Grazia going back two years and a number of other articles that have followed that.

I'm not a psychologist, but I am trying to run my escorting business like a therapy business. Yes, it's a business. Without doing it that way, you won't get anywhere for very long. A good therapist is one who a: understands and helps their clients and b: is able to acquire and retain new clients.

How do I do that? With great difficulty.
Well, through the agency it's actually quite easy. they come top on Google if you search 'male escort' when your location is Melbourne and near the top if you are in Sydney. If you find articles about straight male escorts in Australia you'll usually find them and often find me speaking. Grazia, The King's Tribune, The Good Weekend (national newspaper), Cosmo (they changed my name to 'Andrew'. Bastards), Reality Chicks, malibumom with Susanne Brisk (a US blog. I ended up having Skype sex in my agent's office at the end of the interview.)  and more.
Now I'm going out on my own. I've created my website - myintimateconfidant.com - I've got a blog - maleescortdiaries.com - and Twitter - @AnthonyByNight.
I've had training in Orgasmic Meditation, Basic BDSM Kink from a legend of the kink scene here and mindfulness.
I'm presenting a workshop in May for women - connecting with your desires. And I'm writing a book for women about female sexual desire.
I try to connect with women on Twitter. Not too much and only in ways that are authentic to me. You have to do things that are in line with your authentic self. You can't stray too far from that. e.g. I 'could' get into the BDSM scene if I thought I could make money out of it, but I don't really like hardcore BDSM that much, so I would get bored, feel uncomfortable, dislike myself and dislike my clients.
As it is, I love my job. Yes, it's a job, but it's a job that has real lasting benefits for some women. From victims of sexual abuse (as adults or children) who need a gentle caring hand to help them move on, to disabled clients who just want to feel normal, to divorcees and inexperienced women who need a confidence boost to women who just want an incredibly pleasurable sexual experience. I love it all. Whatever you do in life, enjoy it, don't endure it.
I do this honourably and with integrity. I am respected by my bosses (two normal housewives run the agency) and my clients. If they want to talk, we talk. If they want to ... well, you get the idea.

6 hours of bookings this week. The final two are tonight, 11pm-1am, after she's been to a musical. I have a bag of toys and goodies, but most of the time it's just the skill of listening and reading their bodies.

I also have an English accent. That goes down very well over here. I think an American one would as well. Women here don't tend to like Aussie blokes, so I get a lot of bookings.

Regards,

Anthony





 

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Listmania! / Re: 6 Random Questions
« on: February 23, 2015, 12:16:49 AM »
What color is your toothbrush?
green and white
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
morning
Name a hobby you enjoy
drinking coffee
Name a pet peeve
drivers who take forever to start off when there's a green light
Which celebrity most annoys you?
Kim Kardashian would if I watched TV.
What was your favorite childhood toy or game?
Transformers (Robots in disguise).

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