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« on: July 13, 2009, 10:42:45 PM »

This is funny and I think our man handles himself very well.  :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBhlyXQeAL0
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« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2009, 12:13:51 PM »

I've always loved this scene because he's so humane to her. He works very hard -- going beyond his comfort zone -- to make her feel good about herself. He does it without compromising himself or her.

This movie shows what escort work is all about. I just wish there was a simliar movie about female escorts. Even the best ones are always loaded with baggage. (Though I'll never argue Deuce Bigalow is a mature movie.)

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« Reply #2 on: July 14, 2009, 12:20:41 PM »

I've always loved this scene because he's so humane to her. He works very hard -- going beyond his comfort zone -- to make her feel good about herself. He does it without compromising himself or her.

This movie shows what escort work is all about. I just wish there was a simliar movie about female escorts. Even the best ones are always loaded with baggage. (Though I'll never argue Deuce Bigalow is a mature movie.)

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I know. He's such a caring guy.  ;) Something to aspire to although if the situation ever arose I would have to work overtime not to revert back to this scene mentally. I just hope it's in Baseball season because I couldn't see his plan working at Wimbledon? Unless of course she called out during the "new balls please" umpire announcement.
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« Reply #3 on: July 14, 2009, 12:27:14 PM »

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Unless of course she called out during the "new balls please" umpire announcement.

snigger snigger

Would it be too much to suggest all new male escorts watch Deuce at least once?

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« Reply #4 on: July 14, 2009, 12:39:16 PM »

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Unless of course she called out during the "new balls please" umpire announcement.

snigger snigger

Would it be too much to suggest all new male escorts watch Deuce at least once?

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A must. That and American Gigolo. :)
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« Reply #5 on: July 14, 2009, 03:09:41 PM »

This scene shows the important aspect in this profession (or any other where one provides service to an individual person); Communication. Before the actual meeting, during and after.

I did have the "opportunity" to be (not as a companion) in a similar situation on more than one occasion. At the beggining I didn't react. But later I did. What did I do? I simply stopped doing what I was doing and said it in a calm tone: "I appreciate and thank you for coming to use my services, but at this point I'm not feeling comfortable to continue. Therefore may I respectfully ask you to leave. You don't have to pay for my time. Thank you for your understanding."

Unfortunately, Deuce wasn't informed up-front (at the time of booking) that the Lady has a Tourette syndrom. She told him in the car. But he managed to resolve the awkward situations in a brilliant way.

Most disappointments, stress, dramas, arguments, confusions between people (be it in a business or personal life) come as a result of poor communication. And (this sadness me most) because of unwillingness of individual person to listen, to communicate clearly in a gentle straightforward manner, with a (potential) partner.
There's too much of silent assumptions out there - assumptions not based on facts and assumptions without being considerate about other's person well-being (it would be fair when a Lady would describe her situation when making the initial contact with Deuce and ask him whether his is OK with it).

I desire a discreet but mutually beneficial situations that involves no dramas and lots of fun, pleasure and laughter. For all parties involved. With no hidden agenda or unpleasant surprises during the date.

I like to treat my clients with respect and dignity. And since the respect is a two-way street, I need to be treated in the same manner.

So, I wouldn't want to put myself voluntary in situations like this (again) and would handle the date in the same way like I described in the second paragraph.

I value my health (both mental and physical) very much and I think honesty is always the best policy and it helps that no confusions occur.
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« Reply #6 on: July 17, 2009, 01:29:35 AM »

Jan,

You're right, she should've told him she had Tourette's to begin with. Though I'm sure she already knew no one would want to spend time with her if she was up front about it. And Deuce would've missed making a new friend. She would've missed finally getting a chance to feel comfortable with herself.

The things that bother me most are the emotional problems some people bring to the table. Screening through correspondence helps weed those out but it can't always. And then it's my job to roll with it -- I have to assume they're coming to me for a reason and I'm there to figure out why.

Course, this is how my path is going. It's not for everyone and it's a somewhat different attitude than I had a few years ago. It's certainly not something I'd recommend for those new to the work. Nor am I going to claim I'm always a perfect mind-reader.

On the other hand...the "full-figured gal" was VERY upfront with Deuce and he was still surprised. Clear communication also takes someone who listens. (He told her he was uncomfortable and then still found a way of making her feel good without compromising his own feelings. Deuce is quite the humanist.)

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« Reply #7 on: July 17, 2009, 02:13:02 AM »

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The things that bother me most are the emotional problems some people bring to the table. Screening through correspondence helps weed those out but it can't always. And then it's my job to roll with it -- I have to assume they're coming to me for a reason and I'm there to figure out why.

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Amanda,

Perhaps adding a friendly note on your website, might be helpful to minimize the risk of those "bringing emotional problems to the table", doing some unpleasanties during the meeting with you.

You deserve to experience only the best, positive feelings. Nobody should be ever allowed to use you as an emotional punchbag.

Giving you the idea for the friendly note:

"Keep in mind that mutual consideration is expected; our gentlemen are not blow-up dolls or servants to be rudely ordered around or treated inappropriately. The gentlemen will happily discuss any issues that are upsetting you, but they are not emotional punching bags for you to take out all your revenge on.. We thank you to please be aware of this :-)"

The above note is from the Sydney based Male escort agency for Women - managed by Madam Vivian.
http://www.escortsforwomen.com/service.html
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« Reply #8 on: July 17, 2009, 10:17:46 AM »

That's quite a disclaimer on the Sydney website. Maybe there's a market in that field?

James Craig: Elite Companion and Emotional Punching Bag for Ladies of Means (or Mean Ladies!)  ;)
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« Reply #9 on: July 17, 2009, 04:48:17 PM »


I think this is great. I've been sitting here giving it thought. My first reaction was the point that she'd failed to mention the Tourettes before they met. My initial feeling was that I would likely be pretty PO'd about it. Thinking further, actually no.

Would I see someone who forewarned me about their Tourettes? Absolutely. If they didnt forewarn me, no biggy. If they wanted us to go somewhere public? Bring it on! You could have a ball. Life for me is about winding up with stories to tell and this one would be right up there :). Awesome.
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« Reply #10 on: July 17, 2009, 09:42:23 PM »

James, you're too funny! ;D

MsMunro, great attitude!
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« Reply #11 on: July 18, 2009, 06:55:33 AM »

Jan,

Emotional problems doesn't mean I'm a punching bag. Hardly. That hasn't happened to me yet. It does mean that they expect something different from the average married male who is simply wanting a little romance in his life. Some of these emotional problems have been beyond my reach and some I think I've helped. If anything, I often feel that I lack psychological training. Though these men often resonate with me for a very long time, it's not in a negative fashion.

James,

You're such a smart-ass! Though I can't wait for you to unleash some of this humor on your blog. That's going to appeal to cheeky girls who can't wait to go a few rounds with you.

Sally,

Ditto. Though I'm shy in public and would have a diffcult time dealing with someone with Tourette's. I can think of a couple fun bedroom games to go along with it, though. ;)

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« Reply #12 on: July 18, 2009, 11:21:45 AM »

Jan,

Emotional problems doesn't mean I'm a punching bag. Hardly. That hasn't happened to me yet. It does mean that they expect something different from the average married male who is simply wanting a little romance in his life. Some of these emotional problems have been beyond my reach and some I think I've helped. If anything, I often feel that I lack psychological training. Though these men often resonate with me for a very long time, it's not in a negative fashion.

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Thanks for clarifying, Amanda.  :)
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« Reply #13 on: July 20, 2009, 10:51:44 AM »

James,

You're such a smart-ass! Though I can't wait for you to unleash some of this humor on your blog. That's going to appeal to cheeky girls who can't wait to go a few rounds with you.


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Amanda

 :) :) That comment made my day. Blog humour unleashing on it's way.
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« Reply #14 on: June 11, 2011, 04:41:16 PM »

James,

You're such a smart-ass! Though I can't wait for you to unleash some of this humor on your blog. That's going to appeal to cheeky girls who can't wait to go a few rounds with you.


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 :) :) That comment made my day. Blog humour unleashing on it's way.

Quite the smart-ass, is an understatment. But James is loads of fun having a few rounds with.  ;D
Sometimes I even come out on top, of the ribbing of course.  ;)

James, you should really get back to that blog.  :)

Annette  :-*



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