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« on: July 09, 2014, 10:59:26 PM »

As the years roll by I love my work and this industry more and more.  It's rewarding and satisfying like few things that I have ever done.

Along the way I have come to recognise changes.  Changes that are happening more and more quickly I think.  I thought I would make a post on the subject and and see what others thought.

Things I see:

Go back about three years and most of my clients were around the age of 47 (or older).  They were mostly women when were divorced, and looking for an experience that would set them back on the path to dating with renewed confidence in themselves and their sexuality.

I was contemplating this recently and I realised that now I find that most of my clients are around the age of 40.  Most are still married and rather than contemplating divorce, they are now looking for a way to satisfy their sexuality without losing all of the good things in their marriage.  I have to say that I am very pleased to see this.  Divorce is usually horrible for everyone involved and leaves a financial mess.  So I am happy that I am providing something to women need in their lives that also lets them maintain what are otherwise happy, or workable marriages.

I also get the feeling that (in Sydney, Australia at least), employing a male escort (which is legal here) is beginning to become more widely acceptable.  This may be thanks to a few news paper articles that have appears over the last year or two.  So whenever I am approached to do an interview I have always said yes (having discussed the article with the journalist to be sure that they don't have a hatchet job in mind).  I think that them ore press that we can create for our industry the better.  Normalising what we do is, I think, the key to bringing down the barriers that prevent people who really need the help of an escort/companion from contacting us.

Another difference I have noticed is that I now get a lot more (perhaps a quarter of all my bookings) with women who are seeing me more in a "therapeutic" role, than a "romantic" one.  This is one of my favourite and most rewarding aspects of my work, but it's not always easy.  Clients with serious disabilities (like cerebral palsy, mental illness and trauma) are often challenging to work with, but the rewards for them and for me are worth while.  Then there are the clients who just want to feel safe, to explore and learn about sex.  It's fun work for all and I think helps to promote healthy attitudes to sexuality.

So, that's my observations, I am interested to hear what others think and have experienced.

John.
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« Reply #1 on: July 09, 2014, 11:55:54 PM »

John,

Thanks for the insightful summary. My impression is there are more demanding for employing  straight male companion in countries where sex is legalised, such as in Australia. The quantity of clients and varieties of demands are always going hand in hand. The role of companion is expanding.

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« Reply #2 on: July 10, 2014, 12:02:45 AM »

Hi Pete,

You are doubtless right about legality letting the industry grow faster.  Hopefully the moral zeitgeist will follow in the places where it is not and legalisation will come there too. 

I think that you are quite right that the role of the companion is expanding.  My experience with "therapy" work is testimony to that.  I think that traditional psychology and verbal therapy is leaving a lot of people feeling like they need to go the next step to someone who is literally hand on to start building positive physical experiences.  A sensible, sensitive male companion/escort can be a real help in that area.

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« Reply #3 on: July 10, 2014, 12:13:54 AM »

Hi John,

Then male companion serves as a sex surrogate, which is traditionally limited to females, lol.

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« Reply #4 on: July 10, 2014, 02:40:10 AM »

Yes, it is similar to sex surrogate work, but I find tends to cut further across the "therapy" side of things.  More time spent talking, working through issues, finding out what the blocks are that are causing the problems.  Then getting past that and then giving them the opportunity to gain experience.

Then again, I don't know any women who work as sex surrogates, so they might tell me that is exactly what they do :-)

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« Reply #5 on: July 13, 2014, 09:42:46 PM »

I haven't been in the industry long enough to see it evolve, but I have been playing those same roles, and have to admit I didn't expect the therapy one. It is very rewarding, even though I don't see clients with severe problems because I'm just not equipped for that.
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« Reply #6 on: July 13, 2014, 11:27:21 PM »

Hi Maxime,

It's great to know that I am not alone in the theraputic work.  I am really pleased (and proud too) that we as a group are able to do this for women. 

Our industry has so much emotive baggage attached to it that it is nice to be able to surprise (and shock) people by pointing out that what we do is far more than indulging people's fantasies (not that there is anything wrong with that).  It's just nice to be able to surprise people by being more than a cliche or stereotype.

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« Reply #7 on: July 14, 2014, 10:07:01 AM »

I am really pleased (and proud too) that we as a group are able to do this for women. 

I'm very happy about this too. Sometime, somebody just need someone else to give them a positive outlook on their life to get things going on their own.

It's just nice to be able to surprise people by being more than a cliche or stereotype.

Yeah, I try to fight stereotypes as often as I can.
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« Reply #8 on: August 03, 2014, 05:26:28 PM »

It's great to know that I am not alone in the theraputic work.  I am really pleased (and proud too) that we as a group are able to do this for women. 

Most of my work is (currently) somewhere on the therapeutic scale: and it is the most beautiful work I can imagine.

In the U.S., working in conjunction with a therapist, the sexual surrogate / surrogate partner work is wholly legal, which is nice, although I don't mind the grey area of my sacred sexuality work.

I do think the U.S. -- or at least Seattle -- is not rapidly changing towards legitimacy. There really is a huge taboo factor to women seeking out a professional, even if it is for educational or therapeutic purposes. Simply for companionship or pleasure? There's a long way to go before this equalizes with the men who seek out women!
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« Reply #9 on: August 26, 2014, 04:22:19 AM »

Hi John-Oh,
Great to talk to you. When I first started working, I wasn't sure that there would be so many clients seeing me for therapeutic bookings.. Though I have found that I have become a really experienced sensual therapist, and am so pleased to be able to help so much in people's lives :)
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