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« on: March 22, 2015, 04:32:50 PM »

Hello Everyone,

I've been curious about meeting with a companion for a while now. I have a trip coming up to a big city that would finally give me an opportunity. Yay!

Reading through this forum has been fantastic in helping with a lot of my nerves. I did have some questions that I didn't find posts on. I would welcome any insight or advice from both companions and other ladies. Feel free to point me in the right direction if I missed a post.

1) Time Frame.
What is a good time frame for a first in-person meeting? I wanted to ask someone to accompany me to do a couple of touristy things and then a nice dinner etc. I'll definitely want to be in touch via phone or email prior to that date, but what if we don't click in person? Should I ask for a trial mini-date the day before (pending availability)?

2) Safety
Does anyone have any suggestions about precautions to take? However tough I think I am... I'm probably not. I'm Hayden Panettiere kind of tiny.

I'll start with these two. I have a bunch that are more suited to asking the particular companion as I feel the answer will be very individual.

Thank you!  :-*




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« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2015, 06:53:16 PM »

Hello MsAdventure,

First of all, welcome to CdM! Hope you get as much information as you need and enjoy your staying here.

Below are my input based on my experience and perception for your reference:

1) time frame,
My opinion is the time frame of pre - date communication is more critical than that of actual date. You may need to have considerable conversation with a gent in order to pretty much know if there is compatibility and chemistry in between. Personally, I usually  communicate with my patron for several months, even a year via email, PM etc on a regular basis upon many topics, so when we actually met eventually, we have interacted like old friends. This may not be suitable for you if your forthcoming trip is in very near future. Do have as much communication with your potential companion as possible, and I believe you will figure out the right time frame you feel comfortable.


2) safety.
I would say if you go with the gentlemen in CdM, safety shouldn't be a concern.

Lastly, I would highly suggest you talking to ladies in CdM through PM. They will provide valuable inputs pertinent to your concerns.

Best wishes for your Adventure.

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« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2015, 10:58:12 PM »

MsAdventure,
Hello and Welcome.  Pete is correct, writing an introduction is good way to start within our community. Gentlemen want to vet Ladies, as much as Ladies want to of Gentlemen.  Question of safety works in both directions.

If your day in the big city is around the corner.  Best start would be read the CdM gentlemen's websites, CdM introduction, and their public endorsements. After doing the previous three items, Get busy girl! Write who interests you in PM through the CdM.

First question is, "Hi.  Are you available on such and such date? For this quantity of hours?"
Move on from there.

I am available for you if you want to PM me.  I would have no hesitation writing to any of the ladies within our community. Especially if I wanted to ask one of them a question on a gentleman or safety or even how they like their coffee. I like mine as an iced mocha.  ;D

I am sure I do not have them all, you can use the CdM Search Engine, using "safety".

Here is one posting;
http://conciergedumonde.com/forum/index.php?topic=1800.15

The majority are farther in the forum.


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« Reply #3 on: March 23, 2015, 04:45:30 AM »

Hello,

I should clarify; I have a couple of months before this trip.

Pete:
Thank you so much for your thoughts. I think I would feel better if it was a gentleman from here. I had also been looking at an agency, but I wouldn't be able to talk to the gentleman directly beforehand and that doesn't sit well. Maybe another time.

NoGNog:
You are right: I should write an intro. I have thoughts on it. I wasn't this nervous to write up my professional bio!

Look out for a PM tonight. I appreciate your willingness to help!

Best,
MsAdventure

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« Reply #4 on: March 23, 2015, 07:05:21 AM »

MsAdventure, you are very welcome!

A couple of months should be a reasonable time to find a companion whom you feel comfortable with connection. In general, agency won't allow clients to have direct contact and communication with their escorts in order to protect the business, which is logical.
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« Reply #5 on: March 23, 2015, 07:15:55 AM »

Hi and welcome to our little community.

I think Pete covered the most the ideas that I have and like him, I encourage pre-date communication because it is so important for both of us to declare chemistry and comfort levels. At that point, we can decide what to do, where to go and how long the date will be.

In addition to the endorsements here on Cdm, many providers have reviews and such on other websites as well. Make sure to ask about such information.

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« Reply #6 on: March 23, 2015, 05:55:09 PM »

MsAdventure -- please feel free to PM me, as well.  I was where you are not so long ago! 
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« Reply #7 on: March 23, 2015, 07:56:04 PM »

Welcome aboard, MsAdventure.

I don't have much to add to the good advice you have already been given. As others have already said pre-date communication can be fairly lengthy. In this little niche of ours that is more the expectation than otherwise.

Companion's websites and postings here can give you a good sense of where their interest lie. The right companion for a date in a city may not be the right one for a camping trip.

The only piece of advice I would add is trust your instincts. If there is that little voice telling you the vibe isn't there trust it, especially for you first time.

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« Reply #8 on: March 23, 2015, 10:58:12 PM »

Welcome to CdM MsAdventure!

I'll echo the other advices about communication.
I'll also strongly second Alex's advice on instinct. Trust it.

As for security, find somebody to tell what you're doing in full or in part. It can even be a lady here on CdM. That person can check on you (text, email or call) or you can check in with her. The safest and most reliable method is to call that person right in front of you companion after you are both settled down and say something like "Yes, I'm with him and we're taking a drink. Talk to you later." As simple as that. The message is clear: somebody knows.

Of course, we guys here on CdM, that security shouldn't be a problem.

Have fun!
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« Reply #9 on: March 23, 2015, 11:26:49 PM »


The only piece of advice I would add is trust your instincts. If there is that little voice telling you the vibe isn't there trust it, especially for you first time.

Alex

Sound advice, Alex.

. The message is clear: somebody knows.

Of course, we guys here on CdM, that security shouldn't be a problem.

Max.
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« Reply #10 on: March 25, 2015, 10:33:46 AM »

Hi Alex, Hi Max!

Thank you for the wonderful advice. I appreciate you reaching out.

It's nice to meet both of you.
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« Reply #11 on: March 25, 2015, 10:45:16 AM »

Thank you for the wonderful advice. I appreciate you reaching out.

It's nice to meet both of you.

My pleasure.  :)
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« Reply #12 on: March 25, 2015, 07:59:31 PM »

Welcome to CDM, MsAdventure!

I think Alex said it best.
The only piece of advice I would add is trust your instincts. If there is that little voice telling you the vibe isn't there trust it, especially for you first time.

I would also suggest communicating with the ladies of the forum. Public endorsements are great, but the information covered in private conversations can go a long way. :)
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« Reply #13 on: March 25, 2015, 08:14:48 PM »

Welcome to CDM, MsAdventure!

I would also suggest communicating with the ladies of the forum. Public endorsements are great, but the information covered in private conversations can go a long way. :)

Thank you Hayden. Also, this post was perfect timing. You'll see why.

I have reached out to a few of the ladies on here. They have all been fantastic resources!
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« Reply #14 on: March 25, 2015, 08:38:40 PM »

Hello and welcome to the forum :)

It looks like everyone has pretty much already mentioned what I would have answered.  Just remember that any companion who is worth it would understand that safety is a valid concern and would invite you to take the necessary precautions that will put you at ease. 

I also strongly recommend that you PM us Ladies with any questions you might have.  I know we are basically strangers to you, but we were all in your shoes once and probably had your exact same questions.

- Tea :)
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